Do You Unconsciously Sabotage Your Success? Perhaps This is Why!
Do you always seem to fall short of success? Maybe you take one step forward and then take two steps back. If this is you, you could be unconsciously keeping yourself from reaching your goals, even when you think you really want to achieve them!
Learning about self-sabotage – and your reasons for it – can help you to stop this unconscious cycle so you can go on to create the life you desire.
Reflect on these reasons to determine if they might be keeping you from success:
- Fear of failure. One of the reasons you may not reach for success is because you’re afraid to fail. We have all had experiences where failure has been met with repercussions. Feeling disappointment or worse from someone important is hard to ignore and hard to manage. It’s not surprising you’ll do anything to avoid it. If you reframe failure as a learning experience, you will change your trajectory. When you make peace with failure, you will look for ways to fail and possibly reach your goals sooner and more successfully.
- Low self-esteem. You may not even recognize it if you have low self-esteem. It shows up in how you think and talk about yourself and how you avoid challenging yourself. When you have low self-esteem, you have low self-confidence and self-sabotage may feel natural for you. If you think you don’t deserve success, you will destroy any chance you have of getting it.
It will take patience, but you can boost your self-esteem. Start with listening to and changing your internal dialog. Then, celebrate the good things in your life – even the little things. Let go of perfection and try new things, especially the things you enjoy. Before long, you will feel much better about yourself.
- Fear of change. It’s natural to resist change, but without change, there is no chance of success. If you are resistant to changes that will lead you towards your goal, you will self-sabotage your efforts.The only way to make the changes that lead you to the things you want is to make what you want more compelling than staying where you are. If you want a higher salary, you have to be willing to take on a new job. If you want a new home, you have to make lots of changes before the big change of moving in. Visualize who you will be when you have what you want and you will overcome your fear of change.
- Control issues. It is one thing to take the reins of your own life but if you are overly controlling, it can cause you to self-sabotage your own success. How can you tell if you have control issues? Some signs are that you love to create drama, you are anxious unless you are running things, or everything has to be perfect.Control and perfectionism are often tied together. If you nothing is good enough unless it is perfect, you may be losing out on big and important opportunities.
- Habits. There are lots of habits that are helpful and propel us towards success. Some habits, however, can sabotage you without you even realizing it.For example, if you have a habit of always being late to meetings, you could miss your chance to impress a client and get a raise. Other habits, like constantly checking text messages, surfing social media, and playing online games, will divert your focus from the important things and people in your life.
To refocus your attention and overcome self-sabotage, take an inventory of your patterns, especially around how you mange your time and your energy. Then, change the habits that are not taking you in the direction of your goals.
- Negativity and criticism. The criticism may come from your own internal negative voice, or it may be coming from outside sources such as your family members or friends. Negativity and criticism can be internalized and cause you to sabotage success.
If you constantly hear that you're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough, then you begin to believe it. You feel that you don’t deserve to be successful.
Research indicates that your parents can affect you as an adult. If your parents exhibited self-sabotaging behavior, then you may copy it throughout your life. You grew up seeing this pattern and have a hard time breaking out of it. Their insecurities can carry over to your life.
You may not want to try things that could help you because you don’t think you’re worthy of them. Family, friends, coworkers, bosses, and others may have you believing that you’re useless, dumb, or worthless.
If you’re sabotaging your own life and future, you can change. It will require effort and time, but it’s possible to reshape your thoughts. You’ll be on your way to success when you recognize that your inner world drives your outer world!
Whenever a thought appears that doesn’t support your efforts to achieve your goals, immediately replace it with a positive thought, instead. You’ll get better and better at both recognizing unsupportive thoughts and changing them the more you practice it.
Take Purposeful Action
Achieve your Goals
Are you steadily moving towards your goals or do fail to take action? Do you self-sabotage your efforts to make personal change? Do you let challenges divert you?
What if you could:
- Get crystal clear on what is most important to you.
- Identify hidden obstacles and how to overcome them.
- Create a personal action plan for the direct route to your goal.
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